How to Find and Date Transgendered Women?

I am pretty surprised how many times I get asked this, simply because, well... I assume men who want to date trans women, go through all of the usual avenues such as GLBT dating sites and the such, in order to find them.

But then it dawned on me... A vast amjority of trans women(including myself) shun such places, and are more likely to be found on open dating sites, social networks, and other forums identifying as women, and not trans women.

Another factor that will make finding trans women difficult, is that a fair few of them will be living, and dating in stealth... living away from, or even in denial of their trans history.

SO...where does that leave you if you are specifically seeking a trans partner? Here are some other options, and ways in which you can increase your chances of meeting and mingling with trans women:

Where to find transgendered women

• Transgender Forum Boards: You will find a few quality forums around that have specific sub-forums for dating, and posting "seeking" notices. Tip: Be respectful in these places, any anti-trans or overtly sexual, or other inappropriate behavior will usually get you banned.


• Open Dating Sites: As previously mentioned, trans women are more likely to be identifying as women and using open dating sites, social network apps, and anywhere where you might find genetic women doing the same thing. Tip: Doing a search on the site for the words trans, transgendered, transsexualmay procure some desirable results.


• Social Networks: Utilizing the internet social phenomenon more than anyone is the transgendered community. Isolation has been long associated with being transgendered, and the internet has helped give cure to that. You will find trans women mingling on sites like myspace, facebook, and youtube.Tip:Doing a search on the site for the words trans, transgendered, transsexual will help you locate groups associated with transgenderism/transsexuality.
  

How to a approach trans women once you have found one

Chances are, that if you managed to find a trans woman, that she is happy for you to. Just remember that on your approach, you should consider a few things before you make any advance:

• 1. Remember as a first rule that trans women are just like genetic women mentally/emotionally/physically.


• 2. Initially, you will want to approach a trans woman as you would any other woman you are interested in. With respect, decency, consideration.


• 3. If you do not consider her "trans-ness" a problem, then there is no need to bring it up.


• 4. Find out her interests, and learn more about her. She will appreciate your want to know about her life, aside from her condition.


• 5. If it does come up, be considerate as to how you address her gender/sex/surgical state, and know that it is probably discomforting for her to even think about it, let alone talk about it.


• A fair few trans women will be on the "chaser" alert, and may be turned off by advances of sex.


• Mostly, treat her as you would any other person, no more, and no less. I for one am put off by anyone flattering me because of my trans history, or treating me ANY different because of this, whether it might be with good intentions, or not.